Dear Readers, it has been something of an exciting week for Mum and Dad. On Sunday, they were walking up the steps to their front door (which have two very sturdy handrails) when it appears that one of them slipped, and the other one tried to save them (the story varies somewhat according to who you talk to). The end result was that they both ended up laying in the front garden, unable to get up. Fortunately Dad had his mobile in his pocket, and was able to ring a) an ambulance and b) one of their neighbours/carers who lives just down the road. Dad had hit his head, and Mum had a bad pain in her hip, but Dad managed to get himself up with some help. Mum, however, was stranded in the garden, because no one wanted her to get up if she’d potentially fractured something. The lovely neighbour wrapped Mum up in blankets and made her as comfortable as possible.
Two and a half hours and several calls to the ambulance service later, an ambulance arrived from Swanage (some distance away), and took Mum and Dad to the hospital for observation. A few hours, an X-Ray and a CT scan later, they were released and got home for a well-earned cup of tea, and a rest.
So it was no surprise that when it came to making this year’s Christmas cake, Mum wanted to supervise rather than stand up and actually make it.
‘And then you’ll know the recipe’, she said, ‘And it can pass on down to you’.
And so I creamed the sugar and butter, taking Mum’s advice and using a fork (‘Much quicker’). I added the eggs and the flour a bit at a time, taking the mixture in for Mum’s approval (‘Add a bit of milk, that looks too dense’). And then in with the fruit (‘Cut the cherries in half!’). And then, into the oven at 140 degrees (‘It’s supposed to take four hours, but it never does, so let’s check on it in two’).
Just enough time for Mum and Dad to have a nap in their reclining chairs, and for me to go out for a walk. The fog had finally lifted, and the sun streamed in through the window of the bungalow.
I felt a bit sad. All these years Mum had been making the Christmas cake, and she prides herself on being the one to bring it to the Christmas feast. It felt like a bit of a defeat, but at least we’d have a cake. I put on my walking shoes. A trot through the countryside always cheers me up.
I noticed a fine spider’s web on the doorway of their house as I went out.
I headed down towards the church on the other side of the main road through Milborne St Andrew. I had done this walk back in September, before Mum and Dad’s party, and I wanted to see what difference six weeks had made.
The spiders’ webs were thick in the hedges, and so white that I had to check them to make sure that they weren’t something leftover from Halloween.
One of the houses is for sale, and very fine it is too. I loved the hanging basket holders, shaped like a wren and a robin. If anyone is looking for a house in Milborne I would definitely have a peep at this one.
The horses were in the field, as usual.
But there were some new inhabitants in the field opposite.
They looked like so many clouds scattered about the hill.
A rook called out from the top of a tree.
Last time I did this walk, there was Himalayan Balsam and Comfrey in full flower. But today, the prevalent colour was green, from new nettles and goosegrass and feverfew.
All the plants by the little river had been cut back, but the hedgerow was alive with wrens and flocks of tits.
The cabbages on the field on the other side of the track were gone, but something new had already been planted.
At last, at the top of the field, I find a few things in flower. There is the odd dandelion and hogweed still blooming, but then there is the ivy. It’s the main nectar source at this time of year and I must have seen a dozen red admirals stopping for a quick sip and then hurrying on as I did this walk, not one of them hanging around long enough for a photo.
At the end of the track I stop, and look at my watch. Still an hour and a quarter before the cake needs to be looked at. I have three choices: right, diagonally right, and left. I decide to go up the hill to the right, and just see where it goes.
The first thing I notice is how hot it is on this south-facing hedgerow – I’m sorry I’ve worn a scarf. And then I notice the sound of insects, a persistent drone every time I get close to the abundant ivy. I look around for bumblebees (and do see an enormous queen disappearing back into her hibernation burrow in the grass) but the noise is actually coming from some hoverflies.
This is a drone fly (Eristalis pertinax), and its resemblance to a male bumblebee is supposed to give it some measure of protection from predators. It certainly sounds like a bee, although its big eyes and shiny body are much more fly-like. It loves farmland: the larva is known as a ‘long-tailed maggot’, and it thrives in nutrient-rich, polluted water, which can often be found where there is nitrate run-off. The larva breathes via a breathing tube, which is how it got its name. The adult lives on nectar and is one of the few hoverflies that can be found all year round. A tough creature, indeed.
And then I look up.
I have been waiting for years to actually get some photos of a buzzard (Buteo buteo). They are not rare in Dorset, but I still find them magnificent as they ride the thermals, searching for a rabbit to pounce on or a carcass to investigate. They are adaptable animals, able to hunt for themselves or scavenge, and they’ve even been seen marching over a ploughed field and pulling up worms.
This one is an adult (you can tell from the mostly cream-coloured underwings). Last time I did this walk I got a distant view of three buzzards, an adult and two juveniles. Today, it was just this one bird, effortlessly soaring over the fields, changing direction with the merest twist of a tail. I wondered if it was enjoying its freedom now that the fledglings were off-hand. There certainly seemed to be a kind of joy in its flight.
I realise that the track isn’t actually going to give me a short-cut home, and so I turn to retrace my steps. At the bottom, I decide to take a chance on another track, which seems to head back towards Milborne.
And who is this handsome chap/pess, perched on the telephone wires?
I wonder if it’s some kind of thrush, but it’s not until I get home that I am able to blow the photo up and identify this as my first ever meadow pipit (Anthus pratensis). How do I know? Well, the general look of the bird, but the clincher for me was the description of the bird as having a ‘long back claw’. Furthermore, the bird is described as ‘near-threatened’. I have a new spring in my step.
I pass a derelict barn hidden in the woods. How I would love to explore it! I bet it’s home to bats, or owls.
The farm buildings and machinery are a playground for pied wagtails and sparrows.
And a horse looks like he or she wants a chat. Or an apple.
I know I’m nearly home when I see the stag on Stag House, a private dwelling that was once the house of a Mr Cole. The stag was a gift from Earl Drax, for ‘support during an election campaign’. The Drax estate is still a major land owner in these parts.
As I reach Mum and Dad’s house, the smell of baking cake and mixed spice reminds me that I’ve had no lunch. I put my key in the door, and something catches my eye. The sunshine is low, shining through the spider’s web that I spotted on the way out. It is making rainbows.
It reminds me that there is always more than one way to look at a situation. Looked at one way, this is a simple spider’s web. With a tilt of the head, it becomes magical, a scintillating interplay of colour and light.
I am sad that Mum is no longer well enough to make the Christmas cake on her own, but how good it is to work together to create something. I am reminded that I don’t know everything, and that I could, if I chose, be a little less inclined to try to do everything for Mum and Dad, as if they were helpless. Instead, I could allow myself to receive the many things that they still have to offer – wisdom, experience, love.
The cake looks as if it will be delicious. We’ve pricked the top so that Mum and Dad can feed it with brandy over the next month, until I return in December, and then we’ll put on the marzipan and the icing. Together.
The cake looks impressive, with the fruit evenly distributed. I shall try your mum’s tip about using a fork for the creaming stage. So glad she and your dad are on the mend.
The photos of the countryside around your parents home look lovely, there is not a more tranquil sight than a field of sheep, on our walk there is an orchard of Zwartbles sheep, a large variety with black/brown fleece, and their babies are adorable. We are lucky enough to see Buzzards every day, only today there was one sitting in the apple tree in the same orchard, a few weeks back we counted six circling over the meadow. We’re glad your parents are recovering and wish them all the best.
Goodness, it is hard to read about your parents.
I am so sad that your folks have taken a tumble and I hope that they will be fully recovered very soon.
I enjoyed your walk and the web is scintillating.
England as it should be!
What a lovely walk you had, under a bright autumn sky.
I’m become particularly aware of the importance of ivy as a wildlife food source this autumn, as the ivy in my garden has gone mad, climbing higher up my apple trees than I’ve ever known it to do before, and attracting lots of interested flying visitors.
I’m glad your mum and dad are recovering from their fall. When my parents started having regular falls, I had to find a balance between offering to help them with things without making them feel helpless – just as you describe – as they were both fiercely independent. Sadly, Dad is extremely ill now, but Mum, although not very mobile, still has plenty of enthusiasm for life.
Thanks for a lovely post, combining all your observations on the walk, the story of your parents and of the cake. I hope recovery continues.
Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it..
What a lovely post! I really enjoyed your walk.
I see lots of Buzzards when I’m out walking in the countryside; some Kites, Kestrels and the occasional Sparrowhawk. In Donegal, where I have a mobile home, the most common bird on the site is the Meadow Pipit. This year I also saw some Little Ringed Plovers and some Stone chats for the first time ever!
It’s great you can make your Mum’s Christmas cake (with assistance) and my goodness it looks delicious…
Glad you enjoyed it, Veronica…I’m looking out for red kites, which are becoming very common south of here. I’m hoping that they’ll spread north, they are such exquisite birds! London used to have both black and red kites, and in medieval times it was against the law to shoot them because they were such useful scavengers, and there was so much unpleasant stuff in the streets.
I can’t believe I’d never seen a meadow pipit before. What long hind claws they have!
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