
Dear Readers, last night there was a random letting off of fireworks fairly close to my house in East Finchley – not as impressive as at New Year (when it always sounds to me as if the aliens have finally landed and are taking out great chunks of central London) but noisy enough to make me glance up. The cat was asleep in the armchair, and as the noise grew to a crescendo she stayed blissfully unaware, proof, if any was needed, that she is finally pretty much completely deaf.
I am taking her to the vet for a blood pressure check-up in a week or so, but we’ve been keeping an eye on her hearing, and her problems seem to be purely down to age. And having a deaf cat comes with some problems, but also some benefits. The cat seems much more relaxed now that she can’t hear foxes/other cats/fireworks etc – on 5th November she used to spend most of her time slinking along the floor or cuddled up between the two of us, but now she couldn’t care less. On the other hand, she is very easily startled, so we try to take that into account if we need to handle her (i.e. get her into her box for her trip to the vet). It’s quite possible to walk up behind her without her noticing, and then she has an almost cartoon-like reaction which involves leaping into the air athletically.
She is largely an indoor cat, with occasional trips out on to the patio (but only if we’re there) so there aren’t the usual worries about her being run down, or set upon by another cat that she didn’t hear approaching. What is interesting is that her miaow has changed – it’s much louder and more authoritative now, presumably because she can’t hear herself and so has no idea of the racket that she’s making. Sometimes she goes to the other extreme and does a very plaintive ‘silent miaow’, with all the facial expressions and urgency that you might expect from a cat who clearly hasn’t been fed for at least a year.
And so we progress along life’s journey, me with my dodgy ankles and occasional health scares, and the cat with her blood pressure problems and lack of hearing. We’re both adapting, and also refusing to let what’s happening limit us. I hear my mother’s favourite quotation (which she had on a laminated poster on the kitchen wall, behind the scales if I remember correctly) about having the courage to change the things you can change, the serenity to accept the things that you can’t, and the wisdom to know the difference. It’s such a cliché, but somehow that really does seem to be the challenge as we go forward through life.






















